Category: Vegas

Just a Part of Growing Up… Finally.

Funny how discipline works. When I was embedded in crazy personal struggle I still found a way to kick it with my friends, hit the bars and clubs, buy new clothes and go out of town multiple times a year.

Now that the struggle is over, I could REALLY do those things, right? Probably; but no.

The fact of the matter is I haven’t been out of town since 2012. I only buy clothes when I need them. I’m retired from the night life and though it’s mostly house gatherings, I still see my friends and family when time allows it.  I can also go out to eat every once in a while, only now I do so without having to scrounge for money or take out a stupid payday loan just for a night of keeping up with the Joneses.

The best thing about this lifestyle though is that when really I don’t have it, I’m comfortable in saying that it’s not in the budget and respectfully declining to participate.

I will always be at peace with that honesty.

My rent is always on time. My car note history is perfect. I have nothing in collections. I’ll take that over being stupid with my money every again! Did I mention that short of a bad work schedule I love my life now too?  Yeah, that.

Self discipline; priorities; I guess that’s just a part of growing up… finally.

You read that right. No babies.

You read that right. No babies.

SWERVE, LOL

I have nieces and nephews that I don’t see as much as I would like, so why rush to bring another life into the world right away?

Come on now — this is ME we’re talking about. OF COURSE I STILL WANT BABIES!!! I still want a set of kids to call my own and they are in the plans, just not at the moment.  Shoot, I have my first two children’s names picked out, I don’t plan on squandering the bad-ass that is  Jordan Snake-Eyes Tyler or Jasmine Starscream Rose* for selfish reasons.

Yes, that will be my first born son’s name. Like Kanye and Kim said, “Eff you and your opinion.”

Seriously though… there’s no rush on manufacturing my offspring.

passport U.S.#Priorities – First of all, I need to pay back the people who helped me get back on my feet on the financial tip. They are going to be a top precedence. I don’t know where I would be without their assistance. We also have an apartment to decorate, passports to purchase and I have to have one more real vacation as an adult before putting myself on lock-down for the next 18-22 years.  I would also like to get engaged to the woman I love and possibly get married before children come around.

Apartments aren’t permanent either; though our apartment is going to be on point, I would LOVE to establish a nest-egg for a down payment towards a house. I understand that it takes anywhere between 12-24 months to recover enough from a Chapter 7 filing to purchase a home but the time to plan is right now. I want our house to be a nice piece of work – we’re not going to just settle for anything. This includes the possibility of leaving Las Vegas to get what we want.

I’m not even going to lie either; I want a grown man watch. It probably won’t be THIS WATCH.  CartierThat sexy beast by Cartier is $10,000. That kind of money constitutes that house down payment we just spoke about – and then some.

I’ve always been big on kids before marriage and I’m still cool with that. It’s not like condoms are a regular part of our grocery budget, so conceivably it could happen at any time despite the pull out method. (I apologize for the graphic words.) If so, I’m ready for it. If I had to choose though, I’m cool with the wait. Being 35 and pregnant is one thing if I was the female in the relationship but my girlfriend is 26. Pregnant at 27-29 isn’t a bad thing. She agrees with the wait, as well considering our long term plans. I failed to mention that she’s graduating from UNLV next year with a bachelor’s degree in Criminal Justice; yeah, that!

By not diving into parenthood we’ll be able to not only to the tackle aforementioned personal tasks but really sink our teeth into our other goals in life. I don’t plan on working in hospitality for the next 20 years, unless there’s a quick and hefty increase in salary (at least 4 more zeroes). I love what I do, but to be truly happy and free I feel that I need to own my own businesses.

Yes, I did mean that in a plural sense. I’m playing those cards close to the chest, by the way. Until I have investors secured and something solid on the table, I don’t plan on talking about those plans. I can tell you one thing though: I’m definitely getting back into the world of online journalism before the close of 2013.

2dope.com was a force back in the late 90’s. I fully plan on getting the band back together and growing into a whole new world of online magazine. While I no longer hold the rights to the domain 2dope.com, you can fully expect the new site to come with all the fun, thought-provoking journalism that made you proud the first time around.

I toyed with the idea of still2dope.com – but I don’t know. We’re in the planning phases; that’s all I can say right now. Diary of a Mad Bulls fan will move to that site and I fully expect my sports presence to grow even more. I mean, SOMEBODY has to represent unbiased sports journalism, right?

Unbiased… psshhht! LOL You know how I do.

*No, I’m not going to name my daughter Starscream! Goodness. What the heck is wrong with you people?  You can consider Snake-Eyes however, as already written on the birth certificate.

Recovery & Life Without Babies

money

I like to consider myself one of the good guys.

Like any other good guy, I’m not perfect. I make mistakes but I’ve been fortunate enough not to let the devil possess me into doing something immoral or illegal. We talked many months ago about my financial hardship and how I planned to get out of it.

Well, that plan didn’t work out. Though I continue to be gainfully employed, it seemed like it was just never enough to get over the financial predicament I placed myself in. I got my wages garnished a couple years ago because I was unable to straighten myself out. It was the hardest three months of my life. After I made it through that issue, I promised myself I’d never get that bad ever again.

Then I got worse. I totally didn’t learn my lesson. Eventually, I was three payday loans deep and hemorrhaging money with every pay check. Mind you, I also had to pay my rent, insurance, car note and buy groceries each month, all while trying not to be a recluse from the social scene.

In March I got served again by the courts. They were going to come after me for a balance stemming from the voluntary repossession of the destroyed Batmobile (A 2007 Ford Focus). It was $3000 that I did not have.

The following paycheck came and they got their first payment of what I owed. I defaulted on the promise to myself that I made in 2011. What they didn’t know however, was that it was their first and LAST payment. Though it was a struggle to do so, I took most of the remainder of my paycheck and visited one of Las Vegas’ most prominent bankruptcy attorneys.

I had consulted him in 2012 at the recommendation of my friend who had also filed. She had a great experience. I even referred another friend to his services and he too had a nice experience. I trust most of my friends, so that was enough for me.

I was quickly advised to make any physical move that I had to make, which meant moving from my friend’s house where I had stayed since July 2011. A bankruptcy on your record means that no apartment in any respectful neighborhood would accept your application within at least the year. I hadn’t planned on staying with my boy that long anyway, so I figured that move had to be made. It also helped that my girlfriend Amber and I had spoken extensively about moving in together. The hardship just made it that much easier to get the ball rolling.

With an approved apartment application in hand, the next move was to actually proceed in filing the Chapter 7, which was scheduled by my attorney six days after our retainer meeting and a eight days prior to my next garnished paycheck.

The cool thing about my attorney is that instead of having to pay everything up front, they could process an ‘emergency filing’ which with immediately grant the stay from all creditors and end all collection activities, including garnishment. It also provided an extra 20 days to gather all my pertinent information for the case. They did the hard part for me or course, pulling my credit report and public records. I just had to bring my tax returns, bank records and check stubs.

The total amount of debt I owed was $47,000. To think, I don’t even own a home. That’s a LOT of money from old credit cards, medical bills and payday loans.

From that point on, instead of paying loans every pay day, I began making payments to pay off the balance of my attorney’s and filing fees. With these payments significantly lower than those loans, I was finally able to breathe a little.

A couple weeks ago I paid my lawyer off completely and yesterday upon checking my mail I found my Chapter 7 discharge letter.

I felt the relief as soon as I filed my case and stopped paying those loans but now I truly feel a sense of closure to this story. The mistakes I made when I was married are now gone. All the finger popping, all the irresponsibility I displayed in the past is now wiped out and I’m free to start anew. I’m smarter, more mature and more conscious in regard to all my decisions now.

I’ve learned to never live above my means ever again. I also learned to never step foot into a pay day loan agency ever again. Those places are the devil, indeed. My philosophy going forward is that if you’re broke- you’re broke. As long as your rent, utilities, car note and insurances are paid and there is gas in your tank and food in your refrigerator, that’s all you need to get by.

Its cool being social; but only when you can. When you can’t though, you can’t. All that broke balling in my twenties is what got me messed up before.  I refuse to fall back into that pattern. I plan on reintegrating myself as a consumer slowly. Something I never had in my adult life was financial independence. Every transaction had a dollar and a level of anxiety attached to it.

No more. Onward and upward to a brighter and more profitable future… without babies.

The Good Karma Getback

Two years ago today I showed an ex the door in style, on her birthday. I still smile at the way that night at Nu Sanctuary went. Of course that has nothing to do with anything currently; I just like to bring that victory up because it was orchestrated to perfection and was a great night.

 
Spring salutations to all, it’s April 8th, 2013 and this is another edition of Unplugged; you know, the main blog. I used to call it Keeping Up with the Khidashian, but I kind of grew out of my KK crush. So Showtorious Unplugged it is, where you may still keep up with me.
The last time we met, I had just been christened as the first ever multi department employee at the hotel I work for in Las Vegas and things were finally stabilizing in my life.

 
Fast forward to today. I’m not doing the multi-departmental thing anymore. I’m back to where I came from, working in Resort Services, but with a twist. The reason they called me back to this office is all positive. I’m officially involved in the management development program. To be more specific, my bosses love me so much that they are training me to not become a supervisor but to become an actual resort services, front desk or resort manager. Success is what they suspect from me and I’m happy to accept this role and use it to eventually grow into executive status.

 
I’m not allowed to really talk about the hotel that I work for on here due to branding and all that corporate jazz, but if I made it into property management or executive status, I’m pretty much a made-man ANYWHERE in the industry. Yes, my resort is kind of a big deal at the moment.
It takes a lot to be in this industry and smile through the many changes. I feel for my colleagues and friends who dislike the place or who are no longer with us, but hospitality has been my passion for a long time so when someone gives me an opportunity I jump all over it.
I keep my skin thick, mind open and mouth running because in 5 years I intend to be on that top 5 under 40 list in the Las Vegas hospitality industry.
I also picked up a second job. Not sure if I’m able to name drop them so I’ll wait on that detail, but it’s a cool side gig. I’ll be working as an usher for special events, concerts and such. Right up my alley, huh?

Believe it or not it took me two years to find a part timer… sheesh. Almost gave up.
I know, I’m filibustering the main event so I’ll get to it.
I’m officially no longer on the market. Well, Amber and I have been dating exclusively and have been together for a while but last week we made it Facebook official, much to the chagrin of many, many hopeful females whom I hope are still my friends.
Though I dispute the notion, people say nothing is official until you Facebook the shit. So there you have it.

 
There really was no competition. Amber is a brilliant complement to me. She’s gorgeous, has no kids, is close to graduating from UNLV, speaks properly, is financially independent and has a ton in common with me. Most importantly, we took out time getting to know each other before jumping into a relationship. That was truly important to me.

 
Not to say that the females I was talking to prior to committing were bad by any means, but they just weren’t right for me. With my Amber Alert everything feels natural. It doesn’t feel like I’m constantly working to get her approval. It just feels good being around her and spending time with her.
She also thought I was cute BEFORE I lost these 45 pounds. (Since January)

 
The only thing that felt weird at first was dating someone who wasn’t considered a ‘big girl’ which is usually my de facto ‘type’ but after the first couple dates it was completely clear that she was going to win my heart. That she did.

 
As a matter of fact, we’re moving in together on the 1st of May. How’s that for big news?
We’ve been approved for a GREAT apartment on the border of Henderson and Las Vegas. My cat has her own room again and short of having an ice maker and it’s like the perfect layout for us. Then again, ice makers that are built into apartment refrigerators traditionally suck, so I guess it’s not a bad thing not having one.

 
Personally, I can’t wait to decorate and officially open Chef Chi’s Kitchen!
The cool thing is that I’ve had apartments before, but I haven’t been this excited going into one EVER. Amber likely deserves the credit for that. Besides sharing a residence with her, she’s totally on board with turning this rental space into a HOME, which is something I had NEVER done before. I’m talking about getting curtains, fancy décor, and our own scent when you walk in – the works.

 

Those of you who have followed me for a while know the stuff I’ve gone through to get to this point. I still have a few challenges in front of me that need to be addressed, but at this point in time, I only see good things for my future.
People always refer to Karma as being a bitch. Not me. For when you try not to do wrong Karma is always going to take care of you in the end, in a good way.
I have a new entry in the  Diary of a Mad Bulls Fan coming up by the weekend as well as the long awaited return of The Showtorious Relationship Series shortly thereafter, I PROMISE.

Oh and next month after we get settled, there WILL be a new computer in my life… AmberChi’s first major purchase together. CAN’T WAIT!

Till next time — Blessed and never stressed and that’s why I’m the BEST (in the world)!